Goal setting......and making pretty notes to remind me along the way!

Goal setting is important.....if we don't know where we want to go, how can we get there??

I have some goal cards I found.....the template is about the size of a regular post it note.  The rules I use are:

1.  Ask - 'what must I change about myself to achieve this goal'....honesty required!
2.  Imagine what if feels like to achieve this goal
3.  Act like you have achieved it; send the signal to yourself and your surroundings that you are serious!!
4.  Protect your goals from negativity, people who think you are blowing smoke or don't support your dream
5.  Trust, believe and know that life is meant to be abundant.....we deserve everything we can dream!

My current goal cards, all things that are going to push me along to goals I want:

Meditate:  I need ME TIME.  This is time I can journal, relax, focus on goals I am currently working on
Movement:  I promise me, in the next 2 weeks, to get to the gym to ride the recumbent bike for 45 minutes
Food:  Making meals that are good for me, make me feel good (no belching, belly aches, etc) and are tasty
Water:  Recommitting to drinking at least 8- 8 oz glasses of water....(it also helps with the option to move more as I run to the wash room!)

There are more but these are a few I wanted to share today.......

I have put these on post it notes and look at them daily.  I remind myself that I need to review them weekly.  If I don't make the goal, assess why.  With movement, was it bad weather and I could not get to the gym?  Was I lazy and slept in?  Was I afraid of what others would think or say about the girl who came back at the start of the year to make some sort of resolution that is too broad to achieve?  If it is fear, I have to have the self talk......I have just as much right to be at the gym and these people will see someone who is willing to put in the time to work my body.  Another thing, our bodies LOVE to move....when we do are we not rewarded with a better, fitter body?

Another nice thing is once I have achieved the goal, it can go into my box of good things I am thankful for and have something to reflect on later......

Something else I have realized in goal setting........PERFECTION IS OVER-RATED!

Once I allowed myself to not have to compete with everyone else, I felt a huge weight (no pun intended) lifted off my shoulders and psyche.  Being the best me I can be is good enough!!

Well, I should get back to putting my goals and wishes in action.  If I can dream it, I can believe it, it can happen in all parts of life!!

2014...........The year of the??

Happy New Year!  New year, new mantra......

I am learning to love me more.  Self love is where I choose to start.  I say I am comfortable in my own skin, but am I really?  In many cases I think the answer is yes but I know there are many instances where I am afraid.  This is the year to shake off the fear and try.  What is the worst that can happen?  I fail?  I fall?  I don't like whatever it is so choose a different path?

Fear can be paralyzing.  Where does the fear come from?  Self doubt I think.  Lack of confidence.  I know I am a smart cookie and have lots to offer.  So I am throwing fear to the wind......yikes!

I read a post by Chris Powell about setting goals.  We have to be SMART about it.  Do you know what SMART means?

S          Specific

M         Manageable

A          Attaiable

R          Relevant

T          Time-bound

I will be setting goals.......not boring ones....FUN ones.  Life is to be enjoyed.  We (I) need to show my gratitude for the abundance I have.  I need to name my self doubt and tell her (or him) off.....well, at least tell that part of my psyche that I don't have time for the doubt and fear.  The goals will be in all aspects of my life.  Not just about weight and fitness......adding love, fun, and excitement to the mix.

I am going to make these post it goal cards and put them where I can be reminded of them.  When the goal is achieved, it will go in my special box to record all the work, fun and play I have put forth.  It is going to be a year about me and what I need.  What I need physically, emotionally, nutritionally.....all of it will be touched on.

It is going to be an amazing year.  I have my friends to take along on the ride....whether it be by my side or in my heart, you will all be with me as I hit these milestones.

So hang on tight....Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming "WOO HOO, What a Ride"  `~author unknown

Post hot yoga......

It has been a few days since my first hot yoga class.  I did melt.  I also did not learn a thing....of that I was very disappointed.

When I walked in the door, I was very specific to say I had NEVER done yoga....and I needed guidance.  I was assured that (insert Yogi's name) was a great instructor and easy to follow.  Before I go much further, let me describe the room.

IT WAS DARK.  Yep, the floor was lined with battery operated candles and 1 maybe 3ft lamp that had a paper shade.  The room was long and mirrors on 2 walls.  Did I mention it was dark??  Just making sure.....

The center did let me borrow a yoga mat.  Why invest in one if I was not sure of a commitment?!  I did bring a towel and a bottle of water.  For those who don't remember, I am blind in my left eye.  My girlfriend was sitting on my right side and we were trying not to giggle.  There was one gal stretching.....this girl would pick up one butt muscle and realign herself and then do the other side.  She even did a pose where she did almost a handstand with her knees on her elbows (or at least that is what it looked like.....(repeat with me) IN THE DARK!)

I saw this gal walk in and put her iPod in the station and she wandered down towards the front of the room.  She stood in a corner. She was our Yogi.  I wanted to raise my hand to let her know I NEED HELP, but I did not.  Class started and she told us to sit on the brick....OK,  that part was easy!  I was excited that I got the first move down!!  woot woot!  That was the last of my excitement....

This yogi had a very thick accent.  I could barely understand her.  I did know the child's pose and the downward dog before I walked in so I was sure I could do something positive in class.  Yeah, blew my knowledge in the next 3 minutes.  I kept trying to see what the others were doing but checking out the person on my right was hard not to be overly obvious.  I tried checking in the mirror what others were doing to no avail.  I could not see in the dark.  I started to wait to see what people were doing and then try to get into the move.  Oh, and one instruction was if you don't or can't do the move, transition back to the child's pose.  My knees still hurt!!  I spent a great deal of time on my knees!

The class went on for an hour.......oh, and did I mention that it was 85*?  My ice water cooled off quickly!  Totally drenched, no idea what I was doing, and on my knees.

There was a favorite part........yes, before walking out too!  There was a point where we all lie on the mat and the yogi comes around and puts a cool washcloth on your forehead and it is scented with lavender and eucalyptus.  I could have stayed there forever for that wash cloth!!

I am not totally turned off to yoga.  I am going to find a center that has lights and can guide me from one pose to another....and maybe I will try it again hot someday.

Outside my comfort zone.......

Making this summer bucket list has started to pull me out of my comfort zone.  I am guessing this is a good thing?!  At least I am hoping it is a good thing!!

Tonight I am trying HOT yoga!  I have never done yoga and I don't like anything HOT unless it is a boyfriend!  Sometimes I can be shallow......my true colors are coming out!  HA!

I can guarantee that I will NOT be in this position!  I am so out of shape......well, I have lost some of my flexibility since my foot surgery.  I have not been back to my first love, jazzercise, and the stretching I do at home is not enough.  I get that doing yoga warm (80*) is keeping the muscles warm and maybe I won't get hurt.  My girlfriend is coming with me so we may be laughing at each other and disrupting the class.  We will TRY to behave ourselves!!

Some of the next things that are on my list are getting drunk and painting...well, it is really called Vino van Gogh.  You get 2 drinks and an appetizer as part of the package and are taught how to paint this picture (the martini).  I have several friends going with me and we are excited about going.  What better time can be had with your besties, wine, and a blank canvas?

I have purchased vouchers for a winery tour and wine tasting....my friends and I just need to pick the date and go.  It is super exciting!  I have some friends (online friends) coming in for a few days for a mini reunion.  We have 3.5 days full of fun scheduled.  I got a package to make some fresh mozzarella from scratch; I am pulling out my old quilt that has been in a box for 3 years and finishing it......the list goes on.

I will post and update about the hot yoga tomorrow......if I don't melt and die....but I am sure we will have fun and if we pee our pants laughing, who will know?  We will be sweaty!

The Summer Bucket List.......oh my!

Once upon a time I created a bucket list........a life bucket list.  There are all kinds of things on it......some crazy, some rather private but all things that I would really like to do before my time on this earth is done.  Well, most of them I need to do while I am spry (um, dancing on the bar at Coyote Ugly....can't picture me as a 75 year old chick doing that!)

A friend of mine commented that she has put together a summer bucket list.  That intrigued me.  I have lots of things I wish to do, places to go this summer.  Some of them have happened! 
 

I spent a lovely weekend with sone friends in Lake Geneva celebrating birthdays.  One of our most fun trips was the tour on the Lady of the Lake boat.  We were on the water for over an hour learning the history of the homes (ok MANSIONS) and how they came to be.  It was perfect weather, the different stores were lots of fun...we even found a place called the Green Eyed Lady where they make scents for you with essential oils while you wait.  It was super cool!

Next was a quick trip to Minneapolis to visit with a friend and celebrate her birthday with tickets to the Kenney Chesney No Shoes Nation Tour at Target Field.  We saw Kacey Musgraves, Eli Young Band, Zac Brown AND the man himself.  OMG, it was 6 hours of music and did not feel long at all.  We had great people sitting around us and we laughed  the whole time......well, except when we got beer baths (as drunk people forgot which end was up on the bottle as they were getting amourous with their mate .....or I hope it was their mate/date!)

So far the summer has been grand.  Today I purchased a package deal for a winery tour of a vineyard and a wine tasting.  I have an old deal for a paint while you drink.......there are many choices in paintings....not sure this particular one is me but I will peruse their site to see what I like that I want to paint.  By the end of the evening who knows what it will look like......2 glasses of wine (or so) later!!

 

There is lots of time left of this summer, things to see and do.  No time to let grass grow under my feet.......and who knows, maybe this is the summer of dancing on the bar....... *wink wink*

I'M.......(fill in the blank)

I have been doing a lot of soul and self searching lately.  I am working on doing things MY way for ME.  I know I will not always be right...and might even make people shake their heads.  In any case it is right for me at that moment.  It is my normal!  

I look at words and things people share on Facebook.  Impossible.....vs I'm possible; imperfect vs I'm perfect....the list can go on.

What I do realize is I AM POSSIBLE.  The impossible is the fear in your head.  It might not be right or reasonable.  I sometimes feel like yoga is impossible for me to do.  I lack the flexibility.  That is that inner devil talking.  If I make no changes the voices in my head win.  My answer to that is I am going Tuesday night to my first hot yoga class....now of that I am afraid!  I don't do heat well!!  I am, however, walking in and plan to do the best I can.......and someday it will be good as I will limber up and stretch the muscles I have.  I might even feel like the limber ballerina I once was!!   

I am also PERFECT for me!  I don't need to measure myself up to anyone else because we are all different.  I may, on occasion, be jealous of something someone is doing but that gives me the chance to make a dream of it myself!  We are human, we are flawed and I am embracing all my flaws.......each and every one of them!  I might even make new flaws every day as I retire others.  How lucky am I to be able to do all of this?!    

I have my whole life ahead of me and I plan to keep myself on my toes.....pushing the limits and having fun.  I might have to do something like a friend is doing......a summer bucket list.  Maybe mine will be a fall one but in anycase it will happen and at the end of the day, I will reflect on a beautiful sunset like this one started out to be and know how lucky I am and how juicy my life can be!  It is just waiting for me!

Working through the cleanse

I made it through the rain (detox/cleanse)......I can hear Barry Manilow wafting in the background if I close my eyes!

I was not doing this for weight loss, although some was anticipated.  I was trying to get different foods that act as toxins to ME out and finding my happy place with food.  I have a unique blood type (AB+) and I know what my blood likes and does not like.  The not likes are many of my favorite foods starting with chicken, pork,oranges, bananas to name a few.  I will admit, however, that after eating many of these foods I would spend a tremendous amount of time belching.  Such an attractive attribute when you are in the dating world!!

It comes down to trying the same things all the time and expecting different results.  How silly is that?!  Well, I have a few things that I have a new perspective on in the land of food.......

First and foremost, COFFEE!  I was avoiding coffee because the creamer I put in my coffee has sugar.  I use the fat free vanilla but in going with the spirit of the process I eliminated coffee and drank black tea (or green tea) plain.  I have consumed tea on occasion but my favorite has always been that first cup of coffee in the morning..........**sigh**.  Over the weekend I did experiment with coffee again.  I was so sad.......it did not taste nearly as good as it used to and regardless of the time of day I tried to drink it I did continue to belch.  I even got a bit of heartburn or reflux from it.....what the heck!  I am thinking that I will substitute my cup of coffee with a cup of cocoa in the morning......at least for the winter.  I have to still use my Keurig machine!!

Next, I tried a sandwich and a bagel.  Not in the same day....but when I did eat the bagel it was nothing special.  I used to salivate waiting for Friday mornings in the office when we would have Bagel Friday....the Asiago cheese bagel was always my choice.  Once again, the reflux thing was acting up and the gluten just made me feel bloated.  Friday, I did not have the bagel but did opt for a club sandwich.  The weather was not the greatest, I was running late and forgot my lunch.  I had a simple sandwich......after one bite I deconstructed the sandwich. No bread...the bread was not as sumptuous a flavor as I was accustomed to.  Again, I was sad......

Now on the positive side, I am eating Greek yogurt again.....the plain kind!  I mix the yogurt with fresh and frozen fruit, some water and on occasion some fresh squeezed juice I get from Whole Foods.  That is a treat for me and so delicious because it is fresh, not from concentrate, no sugar added and I use so little my body does not reject it.  I am finding different local fruits and seasonal type fruits to add in.  I have a cookbook that does have some smoothies in it and I will be incorporating vegetables too at some point.  To sip on this for breakfast has been such a treat and something I thoroughly enjoy......and yes, I add a scoop of protein powder just to be sure I am getting all the fuel to light my fire and start my day.

I LOVE vegetables and I have been playing more with them.  Sauteing eggplant, zucchini, and onions to toss in pasta or quinoa has been nice.  Using different vegetables for roasting or grilling (depending on the season) to use as side dishes for turkey, beef, fish or protein du jour.  I am really excited to be looking outside the box for food choices.

I have had much less acid/reflux/heartburn.....whatever you want to call it.  It is a trial and error process.  I might be sad for the moment when I do react to a food but I know if I stay away from it long enough someday I can try it again much like I do with my dog and her allergies.

I am not a big fan of turkey....not even with extra gravy (I don't do gravy!) but turkey Italian sausage is palatable to throw in a nice escarole soup.  Shrimp and lobster are off my radar for the moment BUT I do love tilapia and tuna steaks.  I like fruit, not that it will be a substitute for chocolate, but the sweet edge has to be addressed......can't ignore what I might have a hankering for.

This is a great learning experience and I am feeling pretty good.  Onward.....