Write Your Biggest Regret......

Has anyone seen the video Ashton Kutcher made about regrets?  It is a video where a HUGE chalk board in put downtown New York City and has the header Write Your Biggest Regrets .  There are boxes of chalk....and it starts.


The first person writes something and other follow.  All kinds of things relating to education, dreams, desires, relationships.  It takes a few minutes to watch....and is very worth it.  Write your Biggest Regret


It was noted that ALL the responses started with the word NOT.  Some of mine would be:

Not ever dancing with my father
Not letting my uncle take me to the father daughter dance when my dad had to work
Not going to mother daughter events in high school
Not always being the daughter I should be to my mother
Not forgiving and letting go of crap that means nothing
Not taking care of me the same way I take care of others
Not doing more cooking classes where my passion lies
Not dancing more
Not
Not
Not........the list can go on.


Some of these cannot be changed.  My dad is gone so I never will dance with him.  I don't know that I had an opportunity but I do miss the fact that it did not happen.  My uncle, my godfather, is the dearest man ever and I promise that if the day comes that I get married HE WILL walk me down the aisle and ALL my living uncles will dance the father/daughter dance with me......dad will be with us in spirit.


Now, let's think about this.....why do we not do these things?  Many of mine are in fear; those ugly voices in our head.  We all know them as different people, HELGA, DEVIL WOMAN, SPITE....what ever you choose to name it.  It is absolutely to be fearful of taking a class on cooking!  What is the worst thing that will happen; I burn something and can't eat it?!  Big deal!


The more I think about this, it is having confidence in myself to pursue the adventure.  If we don't fail we will never learn from it to be able to grow and try something else!


At the end of the video (if you have not watched it yet SPOILER ALERT!), the chalkboard was wiped clean and simply put CLEAN SLATE.  Every day we have a clean slate to try again.  I believe, as long as we don't keep doing the same thing expecting different results, it is the healthiest thing we can do for ourself.  I have a clean slate to:

Be a better daughter, more forgiving, letting the past go
Take more cooking classes
Dance like crazy, take a belly dance class, a ballroom dancing class,
Take care of me like I am the precious person I am

I like it.......clean slate.......do over.....a new beginning every day!